Love Is in the Air: Let’s Bust a Few Myths About Collaborative Prenups
Valentine’s Day is all about romance, right? An intimate dinner, flowers, candlelight…maybe even a proposal!
Couples planning a wedding are soon faced with some big conversation topics: the future, finances, and family.
However, there’s one topic that tends to get unfairly sidelined. Prenuptial agreements.
If the word prenup makes you think of conflict, distrust, or worst-case scenarios, you’re not alone. But modern prenuptial agreements — especially collaborative prenups — are often rooted in communication, transparency, and care. In that sense, this kind of prenuptial agreement is romantic!
So in the spirit of love (and clarity), let’s bust a few common myths.
Myth #1: “Prenups mean you don’t trust each other”
This is one of the most persistent misconceptions. In reality, collaborative prenups are built on trust and mutual edification. Both partners openly share financial information, expectations, and concerns, with the goal of reaching an agreement that feels fair to everyone.
Traditional prenups can feel adversarial, but a collaborative prenup is designed to be different. It’s in the name itself: collaborative. Each partner has support, and the process emphasizes respect, communication, and shared problem-solving.
With a collaborative prenup, you’re starting day 1 on the same page. You don’t need to catch up after you’ve already said “I do.”
Myth #2: “Prenups are only for the wealthy”
Prenuptial agreements aren’t just for celebrities like Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce or others with massive estates. While anyone can benefit from a prenup, you should especially consider one if either partner
Owns a business
Has children from a previous relationship
Expects an inheritance
Carries student loan debt
Wants clarity around finances and responsibilities
A collaborative prenup helps couples define what fair looks like for them, no matter the number in their bank account. The open conversations and process itself will help you bust a few myths of your own, making it a valuable process for a mega-successful popstar and her NFL fiancé AND for a high school teacher and her radiology tech fiancé.
Myth #3: “Talking about a prenup will ruin the romance”
In practice, many couples find the opposite to be true. Honest conversations about finances, expectations, and long-term goals can deepen intimacy and reduce anxiety. If that doesn’t set the stage for romance, what does?
Yes, Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love, but lasting love thrives on clarity. A collaborative prenup can actually make room for more romance by removing uncertainty and unspoken fears.
Myth #4: “Once it’s signed, it can’t change”
Life evolves, and your agreement can, too. Many couples revisit and update their prenup as circumstances change. If you welcome children, start a business, or experience a major shift in finances, your living document can grow and morph along with your relationship.
Even better, the collaborative nature of your agreement means you get another opportunity to engage in those open, vulnerable conversations your relationship was built on.
Love, with Intention
At its heart, a collaborative prenuptial agreement is about caring well for each other both now and in the future. This Valentine’s Day, consider planning not just for the wedding day, but for the life you’re building together.
If you’re curious about whether a collaborative prenup is right for you, Miroslavich Law is here to help. We believe planning can be thoughtful, respectful, and yes — even romantic. (Flowers and candles optional!)
